lindsey_lee
Registered: 05/09/10
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| | 05/19/10 at 08:13 AM | Reply with quote | #1 |
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| Hi guys. If I could get any ones advice and or insight on this predicament I'd be greatly appreciative.
I have the pleasure of being the singer at my cousins wedding this summer and it will be my first situation being a vegan in a setting where I have no control of the food that is served or the option of cooking something to share (we are talking traditional Midwestern wedding buffet with meat and dairy in every dish served).
My first inclination is to pack a meal that I will be able to eat, but I'm concerned of offending the bride and my family. What would you do in my situation?
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jessacita
Registered: 04/08/08
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| | 05/19/10 at 10:32 AM | Reply with quote | #2 |
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Ah, yes. The good old Midwestern wedding buffet... I've been to many of those myself!
First, since you seem close to the bride, I would ask her in a nice, polite way if there will be anything vegan for you to eat. I'd explain that they could even serve you spaghetti with marinara or a baked potato with olive oil & a big plate of roasted vegetables (both things that I've had at non-veg weddings). Be clear that you're not requesting anything fancy; just something that will keep you full & allow you to eat with everyone else. If she wants to accommodate you, great!
If not, I would pack a meal & eat between the ceremony & the reception. My boyfriend & I have had to do this for several of his cousins' weddings where we would have had nothing to eat because even the salad dressing wasn't vegan. If you have to eat on your own, you can still enjoy the company & conversation with others while they eat. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable (or polite) eating my own food at the actual reception - but maybe you have a different relationship with the bride & you'd be okay doing this. (Weddings for my friends & on my side of the family have always accommodated vegetarians/vegans, and I just haven't felt comfortable enough with my boyfriend's extended family to unpack my own dinner in front of everyone while they eat from the buffet...)
Good luck!
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lindsey_lee
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| | 05/21/10 at 08:54 AM | Reply with quote | #3 |
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Thanks so much for that recommendation. That sounds like the best solution. I think there will be some form of vegetable that won't be slavered in butter or cheese, but I as well would not be comfortable busting out a bag lunch while all my family members are eating the food provided for us. I'll pack something and eat before the dinner to keep from offending or taking attention away from the real focus of the day; the bride and groom
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lindsey_lee
Registered: 05/09/10
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| | 07/02/10 at 01:38 PM | Reply with quote | #4 |
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| The wedding went over superbly well. I had plenty of time between the service and the reception to actually go back to the home I was staying in and cook myself a substantial meal. My bride was wonderful and at the reception checked in to make sure I was happy and had gotten food to eat. Thanks again for the suggestion. It was a wonderful wedding and the time I got to spend with my family by far trumped the fact that I couldn't eat the food provided. |
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